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Growing Apart
Our twins, M and C, have been together since inception, near each other always, except for brief stints when C was hospitalized for lung disease. They are close in many ways; they even look enough...
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When I was in middle school, there was a boy named Peter who was constantly being bullied. He was slight, with straight sandy blonde hair that framed large, dark eyes. He wore a navy blue puffy coat...
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Outside Looking In
Here is a photo that breaks a tiny bit of my heart. It was taken yesterday at a third birthday party for one of the girls in C’s preschool. The children—including C’s twin—were engaged in dancing,...
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Missing Monkey
I feel terrible. Tonight when I put C in bed, he wouldn’t stop crying. I asked him what was wrong, but he couldn’t respond coherently. I knew he was exhausted after a full day of therapy, so I rubbed...
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An update to yesterday’s post: after this morning’s three-hour ABA session and one hour off O2, C’s oxygen level was 80%. This is very low (read: not good). So, while his progress is positive overall,...
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The Other One
M and C. There’s another boy in all of this, the other twin, the one who might someday read this blog and wonder if we considered him as much as we consider his brother. The one who sees all the...
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He Does Love You
M and C sharing a moment, together but separate, as always. In the bath tonight, M said that C doesn’t love him. When asked why he thought that, M said, simply, “Because he doesn’t say it.” And now it...
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Separate Ways
Playing 'telephone' with cups in the bath tonight. Today was bittersweet. This is the last day of the twins’ co-op preschool. At the end of August they go their separate ways: M will start regular...
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What I Know About Fatherhood Now That I Have A Son On The Autism Spectrum
This post was originally published on Huffington Post for Father’s Day. Photo courtesy Karen Church When I learned we were going to have twins, I knew my journey as a father would be a little...
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Laughing When Possible
Silly C at swim lessons. It’s a good thing this boy can make me laugh because, if I’m honest, I’ve been a little down lately. All will be okay, I know this, but in the meantime I’m quite grateful for...
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School, Separation, and Loss
C waits for the school bus. It’s not been easy for me to accept that the twins are going to separate schools now. C seems fine with it, while M pleads with us to let him go to C’s school. I guess it...
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A Friend In Need
Lewis P is in the hospital. Who is Lewis P and how do I know this? He’s a boy who goes to school with C, and he’s also one of the first and only people C has ever mentioned to us. In fact, C has...
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C Loses a Friend
We had to put our little cat Misha down today. I adopted her about ten years ago from an agency who told me she was feral and might never be very friendly. Wrong: she was a complete love, especially...
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Help Find Avonte Oquendo
For over a week now, Avonte Oquendo has been missing. He’s 14, nonverbal, autistic. His family and community are devastated. Electronic billboards in NYC show his photo above subway entrances; pleas...
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Hugs, camps, books
Things have been hectic, thus fewer posts. I have been a bit more active over on Facebook; won’t you join me there? In the meantime, just a couple quick notes. We’ve been working with C to help him...
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